If you do your research, you will discover that the 4th of July is not the day of our "independence". "Our" meaning black folks (whether you are West Indian, African, African American or what ever word you wanna use to classify yourself, lol).
Let's have a HIS-STORY lesson:
Independence Day, commonly known as the Fourth of July, is a federal holiday in the United States commemorating the adoption of the Declaration of Independence on July 4, 1776, declaring independence from the Kingdom of Great Britain.
Perhaps I am slow and/or illiterate, but I don't see anything about us being free in the above. Here is the second part of the lesson kids (lol):
The Emancipation Proclamation is an executive order issued by United States President Abraham Lincoln on January 1, 1863, during the American Civil War under his war powers. It proclaimed the freedom of 3.1 million of the nation's 4 million slaves, and immediately freed 50,000 of them, with the rest freed as Union armies advanced. Total abolition of slavery was finalized by the Thirteenth Amendment which took effect in December 1865.
Wait a minute, wait a fucking minute......89 years AFTER the Declaration of Independence, slavery was abolished? 89 years? WOW, What are YOU celebrating on July 4th.??? hehehehehe.
Ok sorry, that is not what I wanted to write about but I thought it was extremely important to mention. (Hope you know I love you but I will also push you too, wink!) What I really want to write about.........what is really on my mind is................what has happened to respect for relationships???.........RESPECT FOR RELATIONSHIPS!!!!!!!!!
I am single............I have never cheated.......I have been cheated on, but that is their problem.....their loss........(just a lickle about me, muah!)
Maybe it is just me, maybe I have a little more respect for myself than the average human being............but if I am in a relationship (even if it is on shaky grounds), there is NO WAY IN HELL, I am going to "make new friends" (of the opposite sex) without my significant other being there with me (and if a guy approached me wanting my number and he is in a relationship, I would not give him my number either. It is not about what others do to you or behind your back, it is about what you do to yourself!)...........call me strange......call me what you like, I am sure I have been called worse........but isn't that counter productive to the relationship??????????? I thought in order to "make new friends", you would have to communicate and interact with others...........that is time consuming and takes away from your relationship. Don't?
I go through this all of the time with men (poor choice of a word).
A guy will approach me, in an attempt to get my phone number so we could "become friends"......my reply to him would be, "I am in a relationship, I have a boyfriend." Ok, Ok, I know and will admit I am wrong for not telling the truth, straight out saying, "Listen, I am not going to give you my number because I don't want to get to know you." Now if I said that, it may open the door to a number of different responses from the guy that I just don't want to hear. Ok back to the topic, we can talk about me not being honest about my relationship status later, damn!!!!!!
So, after I express my relationship status, guys always reply, "I just wanna get to know you, you know be friends." I reiterate my first statement, but the response I receive is one in which I am trying to be convinced that I am not doing anything wrong by exchanging phone numbers or giving mine up. ARE UP FUCKING SERIOUS??? I get responses like: "I just wanna get to know you", "I won't call when he is around", "How about you take my number and call me when you can?", "Can we go out as friends for a drink?", and even "What he don't know won't hurt him, he could be doing the same thing to you."
Lawd aves murcy...............please fadda help me.........help us...........
Some insight on me: I will, as my girls tell me, "tolerate the bullshit", because I know how it is to see someone I "think" I like and want to get to know and feel hurt if I get turned down......so yes, I will listen to these lines and give replies. (I know, I know, but I really want to have a better understanding!!!)
I would say something like: "If I were your girlfriend, I am sure you would want me to say the same thing to a guy who was trying to get my number." Of course they agree, but the reasons why I should give them my number......the reasons why we should exchange numbers continues to spew from their mouths.....and with every reason, they reveal more of their character to me........
What happened to respect????.......what happened to self-respect.......what happened to respecting a relationship?????..........what happened?????????
Ohh this makes me so sad............so very fucking sad to constantly be reminded that relationships, even marriages have been diminished to, "I am gonna do what the fuck I wanna do, it won't hurt my significant other as long as they don't find out." Why does it seem like this is how people think about relationships, whether they are in them or not? What happened to people treating others like they want to be treated? What happened to respect?.....I ask again.....What happened?..ok so if you don't have respect, fear Karma, lol.
Let's have a HIS-STORY lesson:
Independence Day, commonly known as the Fourth of July, is a federal holiday in the United States commemorating the adoption of the Declaration of Independence on July 4, 1776, declaring independence from the Kingdom of Great Britain.
Perhaps I am slow and/or illiterate, but I don't see anything about us being free in the above. Here is the second part of the lesson kids (lol):
The Emancipation Proclamation is an executive order issued by United States President Abraham Lincoln on January 1, 1863, during the American Civil War under his war powers. It proclaimed the freedom of 3.1 million of the nation's 4 million slaves, and immediately freed 50,000 of them, with the rest freed as Union armies advanced. Total abolition of slavery was finalized by the Thirteenth Amendment which took effect in December 1865.
Wait a minute, wait a fucking minute......89 years AFTER the Declaration of Independence, slavery was abolished? 89 years? WOW, What are YOU celebrating on July 4th.??? hehehehehe.
Ok sorry, that is not what I wanted to write about but I thought it was extremely important to mention. (Hope you know I love you but I will also push you too, wink!) What I really want to write about.........what is really on my mind is................what has happened to respect for relationships???.........RESPECT FOR RELATIONSHIPS!!!!!!!!!
I am single............I have never cheated.......I have been cheated on, but that is their problem.....their loss........(just a lickle about me, muah!)
Why do some "people" believe it is acceptable to be in a relationship and "make new friends with the opposite sex" when their significant other is absent? Ok Juicah, alright now...........calm it down! Now stay with me on this one, I need your assistance.............
Maybe it is just me, maybe I have a little more respect for myself than the average human being............but if I am in a relationship (even if it is on shaky grounds), there is NO WAY IN HELL, I am going to "make new friends" (of the opposite sex) without my significant other being there with me (and if a guy approached me wanting my number and he is in a relationship, I would not give him my number either. It is not about what others do to you or behind your back, it is about what you do to yourself!)...........call me strange......call me what you like, I am sure I have been called worse........but isn't that counter productive to the relationship??????????? I thought in order to "make new friends", you would have to communicate and interact with others...........that is time consuming and takes away from your relationship. Don't?
I go through this all of the time with men (poor choice of a word).
A guy will approach me, in an attempt to get my phone number so we could "become friends"......my reply to him would be, "I am in a relationship, I have a boyfriend." Ok, Ok, I know and will admit I am wrong for not telling the truth, straight out saying, "Listen, I am not going to give you my number because I don't want to get to know you." Now if I said that, it may open the door to a number of different responses from the guy that I just don't want to hear. Ok back to the topic, we can talk about me not being honest about my relationship status later, damn!!!!!!
So, after I express my relationship status, guys always reply, "I just wanna get to know you, you know be friends." I reiterate my first statement, but the response I receive is one in which I am trying to be convinced that I am not doing anything wrong by exchanging phone numbers or giving mine up. ARE UP FUCKING SERIOUS??? I get responses like: "I just wanna get to know you", "I won't call when he is around", "How about you take my number and call me when you can?", "Can we go out as friends for a drink?", and even "What he don't know won't hurt him, he could be doing the same thing to you."
Lawd aves murcy...............please fadda help me.........help us...........
Some insight on me: I will, as my girls tell me, "tolerate the bullshit", because I know how it is to see someone I "think" I like and want to get to know and feel hurt if I get turned down......so yes, I will listen to these lines and give replies. (I know, I know, but I really want to have a better understanding!!!)
I would say something like: "If I were your girlfriend, I am sure you would want me to say the same thing to a guy who was trying to get my number." Of course they agree, but the reasons why I should give them my number......the reasons why we should exchange numbers continues to spew from their mouths.....and with every reason, they reveal more of their character to me........
What happened to respect????.......what happened to self-respect.......what happened to respecting a relationship?????..........what happened?????????
Ohh this makes me so sad............so very fucking sad to constantly be reminded that relationships, even marriages have been diminished to, "I am gonna do what the fuck I wanna do, it won't hurt my significant other as long as they don't find out." Why does it seem like this is how people think about relationships, whether they are in them or not? What happened to people treating others like they want to be treated? What happened to respect?.....I ask again.....What happened?..ok so if you don't have respect, fear Karma, lol.
WHAT HAPPENED???????????????
